Please STOP using the rough words to the kids

Please STOP using the rough words to the kids

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim

Assalamu'alaikum Wr. Wb.

It has been long time i didn't write here. Seem almost 2 months. 

Today i would like to talk about kids. Ya, it's true that many people really hope can be able to have kids after their done their marriage. But sometime there are some people who don't know how to be responsible person to their kids. And the worse is they become irresponsible.

There are some of them are good and can be responsible as the parents to their kids, but sometime they forget how to control their self when the anger touch them and make the relationship between the parents and kids to be bad or worse. In other situation, the action of the parents which is so rough can make the kids to be bad kids or naughty kids in the end. And can make the kids to be rough people too. 

The rough can be from the physical or words. 

Many people, especially the parents forget that a family is the first school or as the basic class that the kids got before they go out from their house. The kids will start and finish their day and nigh are at home. The can see and feel how their parents treat them. And they put their parents as sample for them to act to the other. Not little who take the parents as their role mode in their life. 

So it's kind of very important thing for the parents to can control their self when they are being angry. Especially when the kids are with them. It's normal thing if there is anger or quarrel at home, may be the parents with the kids or the mother with the father. 

When a mother and father is having quarrel, please don't ever show this in front of your kids. Please do and finish it in your bedroom. Please keep trying always to let your kids to see their father and mother are in good relationship, especially when the kids are still very little. 

Another thing which is important too is about the words. The words cannot be seen by the eyes, but can hurt and make invisible wound seriously. So please check and control the words when you are in anger mood. Because sometime when the anger comes, it can 'eat' you and make you forget how to use good words sometime.

When the kids do something bad, or make you angry, please don't ever use the bad words, 'animal' words, rough words. As i told you before that the kids can take you as their role mode, so if you use the bad words, 'animal' words, rough words when you are angry to them, there is big possibility that they will follow you to do that, and the worse is sometime they don't know the meaning of that words and don't know to whom they can use that words, don't know it's good words or bad words. 

And they can use that words to you too. This thing is the worst. 

For this case, may be there are some people will say that it's not easy, it's difficult. 

May be ya, for the first time, for the first 'line'. But must believe that insya Allah can manage this and fix the bad action or attitude. There is a will then there are many ways, my cousin said me like that, and i always remember this. It's true. So it all come back to the each person. 

May be we often hear this sentence "practice make better". And it's true too. 

So if we have thought that we can do this, we can fix and make this better, avoid the bad, rough or even 'animal' words, believe to our self and practice time by time, insya Allah we can make and manage it. 

Beside it, we want that our kids to be good person, right?!
And we don't want if the kids to be bad person in the future. Because if we say the bad or rough words to them and if the Malaikat say 'aamiin' for what we say, and Allah make it in real, then more problem will come to us, soon or later. We only make the kids to be bad person present time and for the future.

So we can start from our self to make them to be better person in the future, insya Allah. 

Remember that, the kids don't know at all, so the adult or the parents who must control their self and show, teach and give good example to them, how to treat them with better and love. Then they can be a good person in the future and will always love you.  

Wassalamu'alaikum Wr. Wb. 

#Levina Ramadhona