Bismillahirrahmanirrahim
Assalamu'alaikum Wr. Wb.
What is the meaning of marriage?
mar·riage
ˈmerij/
noun
- 1.the legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship (historically and in some jurisdictions specifically a union between a man and a woman).
"a happy marriage"
synonyms: wedding, wedding ceremony, marriage ceremony, nuptials, union
"the marriage took place at St. Margaret's" - 2.a combination or mixture of two or more elements.
"a marriage of jazz, pop, blues, and gospel"
synonyms: union, alliance, fusion, mixture, mix, blend, amalgamation, combination, merger
"a marriage of jazz, pop, and gospel"
I got the translation of marriage from Google.
Some people think that marriage is very important and some others think differently.
Maybe some people think that marriage can solve or make the end of the problems that they are facing at that time. There are some people who have different thought too, and some other thought marriage is not important at all.
I think their thoughts get influenced by their knowledge about marriage, or experience or even the life story of the people around them. The culture and environment, also family life can affect their way of thinking about marriage.
For me, marriage is such as a big thing, important thing, and a big step that is taken in someone's life. Because through to marriage, it's not only can answer some questions that people like to give to adult people but also to gain more happiness in life.
Marriage is not about a man and woman who will live together in one house, but it’s such a mix of one family with another family to become one family. From one small family that ties with another family. So marriage is not a simple thing but it’s a special thing in someone’s life.
And in my religion, it's such as one thing that can be to perfect of our worship and it's a very important thing too. So from here, I take that marriage is not just a status, but can change some parts in someone's life. Of course hopefully, through to this the changing that happens will be able to take a person to be the better one, not the opposite.
A marriage maybe can answer some questions, but it opens some new things come into someone's life. That's why some changes come too.
When you are being single, you can do anything as you like. You can go here and there as you like and decide anything only according to your willingness or your view.
But after marriage, you cannot be like this. You have to be able to share many things with your spouse, not only the bed but also time and when to make a decision. You should be able to listen to your spouse's opinion. Sometimes there are some new rules that a couple make to run the marriage relationship well and give good result too.
After some time the couple gets kids, so they must be able to share with their kids too. They must be able to take good care of their kids and to cooperate or collaborate as a team.
More than that, a marriage can make a small family to be a big family. Because in a marriage is not only about a man and a woman who become one, but also two families (from man side and woman side) become one big family. Although when running a marriage life or a household, there are only a man and woman who do it. Their every family cannot get involved in their marriage or household "management", because it's a husband and wife's area.
Some things are needed in a marriage life:
➤ A Marriage should make someone be better one
Marriage is a pure and special thing, a very good thing. So it should take you to a good direction and make you be a better person.
➤ A Marriage makes you happier
A marriage should be able to bring happiness to the couple and their family. They start the wedding with laugh and happiness, so there is hope in it which a marriage can bring happiness always to them, not only on that day but also many days ahead.
➤ There is no forcing in a marriage
A good marriage is no forcing in it. It should come from the heart and there is love in it. Because marriage is not for a day or a week, but it's forever. Hope it's for once in a lifetime.
➤The Couple must have the same vision
The couple must have the same vision about marriage and household life. So that they can run life properly. This thing also can make easier when the couple wants to make a decision about something.
➤ The Couple must be able to respect, appreciate, and value each other and the effort that they have done.
Both husband and wife must be able to do this to make a better and happy family. Because every each person has the right to be treated with respect, appreciation, and value. Although the effort doesn't give a maximal result or even fail to solve something, still respect, appreciate and value are needed to each other. This is what a good team must have.
➤ To be Faithful and Honest with each other
These are very important things. The husband and wife must be faithful to each other and give true love. This will make your love stronger for each other and also can make strong of the marriage bond. Talking honestly to each other is a must. So both husband and wife can understand and know deeply to each other. No cheating or there is no affair behind.
➤ Communication
Another thing that is a must in a relationship, more of that in marriage life is communication. Good communication, of course. Talk frankly or openly to your spouse so that he/she knows the truth of you and let them know deeper about you. This will make them know you well and understand more about you. The same way that your spouse to do toward you. This will avoid miscommunication and misunderstanding to each other in marriage life.
➤ Listen to each other
A husband must be able to listen to his wife and the same way also the wife to do toward her husband. This is related to respect, appreciate, and value your spouse. When both of you want to make a decision about something, it's good if you talk first to your spouse and listen what is his/ her opinion, then both of you can make the decision together. It means that you love, care, respect, appreciate and value your spouse well. Please stop being the selfish and or bossy person.
➤ To give trust and take good care of it
In a marriage life, a couple still has to give "space" to their spouse to let them do their own activities. So both husband and wife should give "the trust" to each other and both of them must be able to keep it. They must be able to take good care the trust that they get from their spouse and please don't cheat behind or you can face "the fire" that can burn both of your happiness.
➤ Treat your spouse properly and no violence
A marriage is built by love, respect, appreciate, value, care, and the willingness to live together forever with peace. So you must be able to treat your spouse properly. Your spouse is not a toy or doll that you can do anything toward him/ her as you like. You must remember that your spouse is a human being the same as you, who has a heart and can feel hurt or pain if something bad happens toward him/ her. Don't ever use violence when both of you have a quarrel or face the problems. The violence is never being a problem solving or ending the quarrel. Any kind of violence only make everything to be worse, whether rude words, hitting, kicking, or other violence.
➤ Grow the love and care toward each other
Both husband and wife should be able to work together for doing this. This is very good to maintain the love and care of each other and also to grow them. So you will have peace life and enjoyable.
All of those things must be able to do together by both husband and wife then only can give the complete result for having a wonderful life in a marriage. To help each other for doing those things is such as a sweet thing to do for your spouse rather than you leave or ignore your spouse. Using polite attitude toward each other will give "sugar" in your relationship with your spouse.
May all of you have a beautiful and happy married life with full of love and peace 💓
Wassalamu'alaikum Wr. Wb.
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